"Being cool requires a very delicate balance of doing something that shows that you go your own way and do your own thing, but you do it in a way that is socially desirable or at least acceptable," Warren tells Co.Design.
“Yo looks like a prank. Using it feels like a prank. But, as more than one reputable publication has mentioned, Yo is not an elaborate hoax…It is merely a goofy idea taken to its illogical extreme.” http://bit.ly/1l5HIJt
I’ve got to admit, using Yo was cracking me up last night. I’m living away from home right now, and a little Yo from a loved one is an easy way to say “I’m thinking of you, I miss you.”
1. Be impeccable with my words. Still working
2. Don’t take anything personally Umm…
3. Learn to carve a chicken from Celeste I learned it from the internet, on Celeste’s suggestion.
4. Learn to poach an egg Totally forgot about this one.
5. Learn to make tiramisu Kate Koeppel hooked this up! I’ll be learning it from someone soon.
6. Make jam this summer Going to make guava jam from my buddy’s tree. Strawberry jam is also in the near future.
7. See more of California Doing!
8. Wake up earlier in the morning Not happening.
9. Write more! Happening slowly.
10. Text and call my family more consistently I’m doing pretty good on this one.
“Beyond that, I was dreaming of bigger events for the future…Asking questions is always good, but sometimes the best way to learn is by doing.”
I wrote about Form & Future for the Hike Conference blog, outlining the 2-year-long journey that leads up to what I’m doing now. Running that side project by myself helped me learn a lot about myself and my own capabilities. Partnering with Jason and our board has taught me that we can all do better when we work together.
Stress. It makes your heart pound, your breathing quicken and your forehead sweat. But while stress has been made into a public health enemy, new research suggests that stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal urges us to see stress as a positive, and introduces us to an unsung mechanism for stress reduction: reaching out to others.
“When you choose to view your stress response as helpful, you create the biology of courage. And when you choose to connect with others under stress, you can create resilience.”
What I love about this is our potential to change our minds about stress. There will never be a perfect future where our lives are free of stress. How we think about stress and react to it is healthier and more productive than internalizing it, and pretending it will be better tomorrow.
We tend to imagine some point in the future in which everything is seamless and easy. Nothing is stressful or difficult, and no one bothers us. I tend to imagine myself on a farm in the middle of nowhere tending to a garden and my goat, drinking cups of tea and writing. My fantasy is some combination of early retirement and Little House on the Prairie.
My friend just found bed bugs in her beautiful New York apartment. It’s always going to be something—all we can change is our attitude.
I’ve been thinking a lot about stress lately, and the toll it takes on our lives. When we pretend the future will be easy, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment. There will always be stress, too many things to do, and lots of things that don’t get done. We still need to relax, take time off, and take it easy on ourselves. There will always be a list of things we don’t get to.
Just remember to take advice from Ferris Bueller: Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you just might miss it.
“Even more questions swirled when they considered how an artificially intelligent OS should behave. Are they a good listener? Are they intuitive? Do they adjust to your taste and line of questioning? Do they allow time for you to think? As Barrett puts it, “you don’t want a machine that’s always telling you the answer. You want one that approaches you like, ‘let’s solve this together.’”
"Adorable Clark update: We are trying to train Clark to drink his milk out of a dish rather than a bottle (I am less onboard with this new plan because bottle feeding gives Clark and I play time). But poor Clark is having a hard time learning this new skill. He just sticks his whole head in the pan and blows out his nose making bubbles in the milk. When he finally lifts his head out of the milk he just licks as much as he can off his face and tries again."
My friend McKinley Bryson is an intern on a farm in Maryland. She writes weekly updates on her blog, Home Groan. It’s worth following for the Adorable Clark updates alone.
This year, I went through a break-up and stopped constantly posting my life online. It feels really good to maintain privacy, and a real sense of living life in the moment. It’s a dangerous cycle, measuring our happiness and success by the number of likes we get and comparing ourselves to our peers.
I moved three times, meaning I lived in four different apartments this year. My belongings are a lot smaller, but I still manage to haul a ridiculous number of plants and books from place to place. San Francisco is changing, and it’s interesting to live here at this time. How are we going to preserve the city for those who aren’t ultra-rich, who deserve to live here as much as anyone? I hope we work together to find out in 2014.
Form & Future had a successful year of events at Makeshift Society. It blossomed into a full-blown conference called Hike (www.hikecon.com), coming to SF and Chicago next year.
I’m really grateful for the beautiful friends and family who support me, this year and always. Your love means success to me.
My New Years resolutions are to:
1. Be impeccable with my word
2. Don’t take anything personally
3. Learn to carve a chicken properly, instead of mangling the poor thing like I do now. It deserves better.
Just so you know, I’m planning a conference with Jason Schwartz of The Secret Handshake. We’re working with a team of amazing directors, some kickass volunteers, and generous sponsors to make it all happen.
I’ve been fighting off a cold this week by resting a lot and drinking plenty of fluids. I always feel guilty when taking off work to be sick, because Americans are the worst at resting. I feel like I’m getting behind and not being productive and so on.
“XOXO’s talks had a deep undercurrent of mental health: dealing with stress, depression, impostor syndrome, and doubt. Emotions are good, especially when aired, and stress can be beneficial, but they are not meant to derail you. If the best, brightest, most talented and successful people we have in the independent community are feeling this way, clearly we have some corrosive expectations of ourselves and one another, and things need to change. We have a climate problem with personal consequences.” – Frank Chimero, “The Inferno of Independence”
There are probably seven French words to describe the feeling of reading something that you know immediately to be true. I used to pressure myself to be the best at everything, especially the internet. I crafted interesting tweets, gathered a following, posted regularly, and developed my online presence. Online and offline I felt this urgency to prove myself, to be everything to everyone.
In the past year, I’ve slowly given up on these notions. Only in the last six months have I been able to step back from my online community and decide there’s a different way. I found the pressure of comparing myself to successful people and keeping up with the oh-so-rapid internet just too damn much. Having a side project is shit if you don’t have friends to grab a beer with. I spent college being mostly too busy for my friends, and I don’t want to fall into that trap again.
It’s like Frank said. If he’s feeling the pressure, and I’m feeling the pressure, and the talented, respected people we look up to are feeling the pressure, something’s gotta give. We’re hurting ourselves with stress.
I want to make things that help other people live their lives, and I don’t want to ignore the rest of my life to do so. Instead of making things for my own recognition, now I’m making them because I want them to exist.
Be nice to yourself. Give yourself a break. Remember that no one expects to be [whatever amazing thing you think you’re supposed to be.] Make things with vigor because it brings you pleasure. Make your dreams more about other people, and less about yourself.
“As I continue to get better at my craft, it’s important for me to remember why I loved it in the first place. So many of us set this aside and simply do what others suggest, never finding our own voice, and forgetting why we set out on this journey in the first place.”
The two IDEO-trained founders of Curiosity Atlas are looking for a Brand Communications Fellow this summer. Please forward to any undergrads or new graduates you know. More details on their site: http://curiosityatlas.com/summer-fellowships
Curiosity Atlas Fellowships
With summer just around the corner, we are thrilled to announce our inaugural Curiosity Atlas Fellowship Program. We are looking for one talented, curious Fellow to each take on a distinct project over the summer within a creative and collaborative team. These projects together will lay the foundation for Curiosity Atlas to grow and thrive over the coming year.
1. Brand Communications Maven
This is a part-time (10-15hrs/wk) opportunity for June through August 2013 - great for undergraduate seniors, grad students, or recent grads. While this is an unpaid fellowship, the rewards are infinite! They include cool portfolio work, mentorship & guidance, an expanded network of creative & entrepreneurial people in SF and taking part in quirky, fun SF experiences!
We’ll brainstorm and plot together once a week; other project activities happen independently and on your schedule.
Do yourself a favor. Read this post, then re-read it, then share it with people you love.
Stories—my grandmother’s, mine, yours—aren’t linear. They come in different shapes and sizes, and they don’t usually move in straight lines. Sometimes life is orderly, but most of the time, it shoots out in a lot of different directions at once and you have to just go with it. Stories don’t always fit on a page or in a room or whatever else kind of box we want to put them in. Some begin and end in the same sentence, and others unfold over dinner parties, weeks, or lifetimes.