You can’t let potential negativity keep you from speaking up and having an unpopular opinion. Wanting others to like you all the time actively works against you.
We tend to imagine some point in the future in which everything is seamless and easy. Nothing is stressful or difficult, and no one bothers us. I tend to imagine myself on a farm in the middle of nowhere tending to a garden and my goat, drinking cups of tea and writing. My fantasy is some combination of early retirement and Little House on the Prairie.My friend just found bed bugs in her beautiful New York apartment. It’s always going to be something—all we can change is our attitude.
I’ve been thinking a lot about stress lately, and the toll it takes on our lives. When we pretend the future will be easy, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment. There will always be stress, too many things to do, and lots of things that don’t get done. We still need to relax, take time off, and take it easy on ourselves. There will always be a list of things we don’t get to.
Just remember to take advice from Ferris Bueller: Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in awhile, you just might miss it.