Today I learned that you can substitute almond milk for cheese in quiche. Hooray!
I’ve been fighting off a cold this week by resting a lot and drinking plenty of fluids. I always feel guilty when taking off work to be sick, because Americans are the worst at resting. I feel like I’m getting behind and not being productive and so on.
Do you ever feel this way?
“XOXO’s talks had a deep undercurrent of mental health: dealing with stress, depression, impostor syndrome, and doubt. Emotions are good, especially when aired, and stress can be beneficial, but they are not meant to derail you. If the best, brightest, most talented and successful people we have in the independent community are feeling this way, clearly we have some corrosive expectations of ourselves and one another, and things need to change. We have a climate problem with personal consequences.” – Frank Chimero, “The Inferno of Independence”
There are probably seven French words to describe the feeling of reading something that you know immediately to be true. I used to pressure myself to be the best at everything, especially the internet. I crafted interesting tweets, gathered a following, posted regularly, and developed my online presence. Online and offline I felt this urgency to prove myself, to be everything to everyone.
In the past year, I’ve slowly given up on these notions. Only in the last six months have I been able to step back from my online community and decide there’s a different way. I found the pressure of comparing myself to successful people and keeping up with the oh-so-rapid internet just too damn much. Having a side project is shit if you don’t have friends to grab a beer with. I spent college being mostly too busy for my friends, and I don’t want to fall into that trap again.
It’s like Frank said. If he’s feeling the pressure, and I’m feeling the pressure, and the talented, respected people we look up to are feeling the pressure, something’s gotta give. We’re hurting ourselves with stress.
I want to make things that help other people live their lives, and I don’t want to ignore the rest of my life to do so. Instead of making things for my own recognition, now I’m making them because I want them to exist.
Be nice to yourself. Give yourself a break. Remember that no one expects to be [whatever amazing thing you think you’re supposed to be.] Make things with vigor because it brings you pleasure. Make your dreams more about other people, and less about yourself.
“As I continue to get better at my craft, it’s important for me to remember why I loved it in the first place. So many of us set this aside and simply do what others suggest, never finding our own voice, and forgetting why we set out on this journey in the first place.”